Do you find yourself saying you want to change something in your life, but when push comes to shove, you find that you don’t really want it badly enough?
This is true of everyone, and it benefits us to be completely honest with ourselves about our priorities and what we’re willing to sacrifice. Self-awareness is key, here.
Many of us have also experienced being more invested in someone else making a change for themselves than they are! It has been through these experiences—rather than my own bullshit (which is still alive and well)—that I’ve come to accept:
None of us are going to make a change until we really want to.
We’re averse to change, as our misery often becomes our standard mode of operation—our comfort zone.
We’d rather dance with the devil we know than the one we don’t.
These are all normal human responses to making changes—all born out of our monkey minds/egos, I’d argue.
Said another way, our brains will default to the “easy” road automatically, so we have to make a concerted effort to act from a higher place. To act from a place of consciousness, not fear.
When we make this shift from living in our monkey minds—where our brains are swirling with excuses and projecting fear onto the future—to a more conscious state of awareness, we’re able to understand that our fear-based thinking is keeping us small and comfortable.
We begin to make choices based on deeply rooted values, growth, and the possibility of our future selves, and we become keenly aware that this isn’t a dress rehearsal. And we can’t afford to live our lives as such.
If you’re deep in the cycle of yo-yo dieting, neurotic food behaviors, lacking self-trust around food, or excessive exercise, you may or may not realize that life is passing you by.
While it’s tempting to stay rooted in these behaviors due to fear of the unknown, I recommend asking yourself if the costs outweigh the benefits (if there still are any).
Is it worth it to continue playing out the same patterns and miss out on experiencing everything life has to offer in this limited time we’ve been given?
Obsession with food and our bodies isn’t something to take lightly, as it can consume our entire being and fill every crevice of our brains.
The stakes are HIGH here.
The patterns you’ve become accustomed to will always be waiting for you if you decide that a new way isn’t worth it.
If you decide that the discomfort of growth and expansion outweighs the misery of your comfort zone.
I know the feeling of wanting to stay wrapped up in my comfort zone all too well, and the reality is that we can’t prioritize everything. We aren’t going to change the things we don’t really want to change.
My only ask is that you consider the gravity of the situation when it comes to giving up so much of your life to controlling food and your body.
This isn’t a matter of learning a new hobby or saving for new pair of boots—priorities that can understandably fall to the wayside for more pressing matters, I’d argue.
Our relationship with food is a major part of the foundation on which we live our lives, so we really can’t afford to wait.
We can’t afford to say “one day” and hope for things to magically feel comfortable enough to finally make a change.
Today is all we have, and I hope this serves as a reminder that we need to act like it (myself included).